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Thank you. I have been listening to you and working on my grief for about a year. I feel supported and encouraged. Your approach is direct and easy to follow, but hard work at same time. I can manage all the feelings I have. Thank you.

I struggle to concentrate and I'm so tired all of the time. I have to make a lot of decisions in my job and decisions are incredibly hard at the moment. I definitely feel emotionally overwhelmed.

Soooo needed this.

Grief doesn't always mean death of a person. Relationships/divorce, loss of job/home. Before and after tornado/nature's destruction.

It wears on us, but thousands of thousands of years of grief of our ancestors and their losses. I've found through losses and grief, remembering our ancestors and most everyone around us, has experienced grief. But yes...grief is real, it affects us.

You so clearly define these questions that I struggle with constantly. It’s even a relief to hear this much. I’ll be waiting for your longer video. Thank you. With your help I’ve been able to make it through these past 10 months since losing my husband to cancer, and our son to sudden heart failure 2 years before.

I unfortunately would have to say all of the above

Like an internal wave getting higher and higher, until it explodes in the form of uncontrolled crying. It’s like a temporary release.

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My ex-husband completed suicide two months ago. We had been divorced for about two years. He was an alcoholic; could be my best friend, then lacerate me with his words. We essentially had no contact after we sold our house and he left to travel the country with our special needs dog in an RV. I woke to a call from his sister that he hung himself, and if I couldn't take our dog, they would put Fluffy down. This was my one of fears realized. He had rehearsed suicide once while we were together, and I feared when we divorced that he was too unstable to leave Fluffy with him. Fluffy was on the complete opposite side of the country. I wanted to save her, but ultimately it became clear after speaking with police and vet, that her condition had declined significantly since I last saw her. I had to make the call to put her down. Two losses in one go...for the second time around. This grief is unlike any other I've experienced. The angst and shame and loneliness are intense. My current partner struggles to understand, because my ex could be really nasty to me. Even so, I still cared for him for a decade. I don't feel responsible for the fact that he chose to complete suicide. However, all the feelings with the divorce resurfaced. I have been struggling with a sense of not being enough, that there is something wrong with me that all of this played out the way it did. That I can't trust my choices. My capacity has been so low, and I seem to lose it really easily. It's hard for people to understand or hold space for me. The grace that people get with other types of losses hasn't come much for me, except from a few close friends. This is hard. It is really hard. And I've started to struggle with my own suicidal ideation. I don't plan to do anything, it's just really hard sometimes to handle all this, and feel like a burden to other people. Like my loss is dampening their world. One day at a time.

Would you be willing to do a video about losing an ex? My ex-husband completed suicide a couple months ago. He struggled with alcoholism, and we had been divorced for about two years. This grief has been really challenging and I've struggled with a lot of angst and shame. I don't want to alienate my current partner, but it seems like I may have. I have a few friends that care and a therapist that I can talk to, but overall it is hard to grieve openly given the layers of stigma. My capacity is really low, and it's difficult to know how to integrate this. Thanks for all you do!

My sweet baby girl brought me here. She was so smart, witty and beautiful. She had goals and direction. She was going to graduate high school at least one year early and was trying to finish even two years early. But she was never pushed to do it by me or her mother. It was her own drive. She was hard on herself. If she didn't get a 100% on a test shed say she failed. She was her toughest critic. My baby girl was 15 years, 9 months and 20 days old. I just miss my sweet baby girl so so much. I took for granted that she'd just be here my whole life, and I just feel so empty. Thank you so much for making this video for us. I don't know if it will actually help, but thank you for trying

Iv just lost my husband 2 months ago & im finding it hard to cope without him . I also have anxiety which has been bad . Please 🙏 for me . 💔

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❤. H.s. ❤.H.S. ❤. 20's ❤I was the 'finder' ❤. Late 20s ❤. ... ... Friends... And my girlfriends son... I guilt is empathy, I've come to realize... Wishing that I could have done more to help, is FINE..! holding my self responsible for unmanageable / uncontrollable situations & actions of others... In not... ❤

We buried my only brother 4 days ago. there are 3 of us girls and he was probably closer to me as he was exactly 1 year older than me. we grew up in an environment that was not kind to either of us. we both turned to drinking and drugs. I have 4 years clean and he tried and tried to to do the same. His demons wouldnt leave him alone and he fought so hard. my best friend, my protector, my everything. this world is a cruel nasty place. my pain for him is unbearable, I just want him home, he meant more to me than i could ever express. Thank you for your thoughtful video

Thank you for the validation of what I have been going through. I received a card from the funeral home on the first anniversary of my husband's death. We were married 39 years., he is gone 13 months. Yes, I'm a counter. They also had a "coping" sheet with it and it mentioned year 2 being more difficult than year one. This started by web search as I felt my grieving was delayed. Your video was especially helpful about the brain fog. I have been misplacing things and feared I might be developing Alzheimers as my mother had this dreaded disease. I also am a counselor and have worked in traumatic brain injury. I stepped away from evaluating people in the emergency room to doing this in a zero hour position, I could not do this with what I was going through. Thank you for your support.

I lost my wife on August 11th and I am having a horrible time with it, I feel like I don’t want to live anymore

Im so grateful to have found your chanel.

It is hard xxxx

Thankyou Jo ❤

I have been listening to you since my beloved husband died in February 2023.

Thank You So Much Jo.

I am honering the loss of my 5 people each indiviually with the memories they left me with. This can be time consuming and exhausting but I am determined never to to completely forget any of them.

What I find is that no one wants to talk about my husband, whom they all adored. I just want people to talk about him! He lived! And oh, how he loved me. Now I am alone, and people avoid me now as I am a reminder that someone they cared about and loved died.😢😢😢

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So sorry for your loss. That’s exactly why I’m not having mine done cause I’d have no one at home to help take care of me.!! I.e., one of the hazards of becoming divorced people don’t warn you about/!!!😢😢

Recognizing the loss” ,, yes- all of these family my members and family friends were major players I. My life at crucial parts!!!❤😂😂

It is so nice having someone ask about how my day is going And how did I sleep last night

I have sought out many online dating resources which are helping me fill my tremendous void of losing my mom brother dad and 3 friends!!!

This has been so difficult grieving 5 people at the same time😢

I talk to my husband all the time and I feel better when I do, but now having lost mt dog who I talked to as well ...I jus feel so sad and depressed ...it was sudden and she was older but I wasn't ready

I thought I was getting a little better with my Grier but then my little girl with 4 legs died last Wednesday...so back to square one. my family decided that what I needed was more of there criticism and aggravation ...my remaining dog and I are so depressed, she died at home on a wednsday just like my husband did 2 years ago....sorry for the sloppy writing I had 2 hours sleep and that's with meds...😪

Though, not a new concept for me, #1 (Recognizing the Loss) has been an interesting journey. I’ve learned so much along the way. Also, I find that readjustment has been much better now, after three years. Thanks for your continued encouragement. 💖👍

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When I came home after hip replacement surgery and rehab, I did not have any appetite, as my late Husband Robert was not at home to greet me. Alone without any company and processing all kinds of pain and much of many adjustments.

Just lost my uncle unexpectedly on August 14 2024 and I found myself in disbelief and not being able to cry over him simply because he was murdered. My brain is fixated on how it happened how much damage he felt in those final hours leading up to the final blow to his head, ending his pain. On the day of his wake I unconsciously refused to cry, stand at my cousins side(his children) I felt that it wasn’t my place to shed tears in front of them, somehow I saw that as selfish as it was their own father in that casket. I did not attend the funeral, instead I made my 5-6 hour drive home alone and that’s when the tears hit, the loss and especially the anger over his senseless murder. I had been in a car accident in May, my car at a total loss and since then I began having panic attacks randomly, I get it’s stress and anxiety. But then this happens and I’m feeling like I’m losing my shit with this blanket of anger and rage over the panic attacks. Feels like my heart is gonna give out at times. Goes on for what seems like an eternity.

❤ Lost my brother 3 weeks ago from suicide 😭😭please pray for my family especially my mom, she blames herself n believe if she was home he wouldn't have done it, how do I help her to know that there was nothing for her to stop him, 😢😢 Digma rest in perfect peace my brother I will miss you forever n ever I LOVE YOU

I feel like a broken piece of glass with a million pieces that will never go together again.

People are playing polite because they don’t want to deal with you. It’s ok but it happens.

Ginw ans atull foing rhriiugg all rhe thought dustirtiins you listed. Been rherw and and gir the tee shirr so to speaj. Horrible and very judgemental. Difficulr place to be. However your videi has made me realise that a lot of these thoughts may be a defense and a stage of seeming self preservation. Thanjs for helping me realise this. Also the imoact if smalk.mundane physical activities does bring a calmness, if inly for a few minutes. Helpful Best Wishes 👍🌻🌞 X

my cat Fluffy was put to sleep this week due to cancer. I'm heartbroken. this is my second pet loss.

Thanks for really looking at and examining this subject. A real taboo area. Going through what seems like massive irrational anger at the moment about nearly everthing not only the death of my departed loved one. Veey reassuring to heae this reaction is normal and to be wxpected. Thanks for your sypport. Realy mwans a lot.. Best Wishes 🌻👍🌞 X

The loss of my sister (who lived in Toronto) has hit me as hard as both of my parents, I suppose because she was in my life longer. Living with someone who shows no empathy makes it worse.

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I had my pet Pineapple budgie 2 years 3 months old. He was my fav pet. He used to love and trust me a lot. He lost his partner on 2 Jun all of a sudden. Pineapple fell ill on 3rd Jun. I consulted a vet who had earlier cured him and other budgies thrice last year. Vet used to charge less, visit our residence and used to feed medicines to the birds orally. Other vets known to me either don't feed medicines to birds directly, their assistance do it and if they do its far from home. My Pineapple budgie though slightly recovered in between. He was critically ill in Aug. He eventually passed away on 17 Aug. Earlier my though process went my Pineapple budgie was alive was My reasons were: 1. Vet had treated him earlier twice and he was cured. 2. It was convenient and cheap. Vet used to visit our home to treat birds. 3. Earlier other vets whom I had shown my other birds were not able to cure them and my birds had passed away. I had basically made fool out of my baby. I just hoped that he will be cured. I could hv explored other different vets but I didn't. My little baby passed away. He really struggled on his last day. Poor little bird tried everything to save himself. He was falling from his perches while eating his food and water. Still he didn't gave up. In his critical stage also he was kissing me and responded when I was taking his video. My mistake and ignorance cost my budgie his precious life who wanted to live. I lost my two budgie babies recently. My Pineapple budgie I lost on 17 Aug. He had lost his partner on 2 Jun. He had abnormal droppings n was losing his feathers from his bottom. I consulted my regular vet who had treated him earlier as well. This time it was different. My Pineapple undergo treatment for 2 and a half months. Vet didn't bothered to prescribe stool tests or any other test. I was such an stupid person that knowing that my bird was not getting better, I didn't switched to any other doctor. My parents used to shout at me on cost of Pineapple's treatment. I used to fear it and never thought about how the vet was treating my birds. I am devastated. My family doesn't support me and my birds either financially or otherwise. They think that I am crazy as for them it was inly a bird.

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I have a physical squeezing on my heart. My husband died 2 months ago.